You feel guilty saying no. You want everyone to like you, and you definitely don’t want anyone to think or say anything negative about you. You kind of hate that you’re like this but you don’t know how to stop, and part of you also doesn’t want to stop because you LIKE that people love you…
5 questions for People-Pleasers to ask themselves before saying yes
One of the hardest things for people-pleasers to do is say no, especially to employers and people they care about. You feel guilty saying no, or worry about what they will think if you say no. You think…will my boss think I’m not a team player and won’t promote me? They’re family so I have to say yes. And on the deepest level, you fear you will be rejected if you don’t say yes. This drives you to end up saying yes, even though you don’t have the capacity or if it conflicts with your own needs or leaves you feeling resentful.